My Resume

The mad writer is at it again. There will always be time for people to grow up and I won’t have to feel like I have a standard to maintain that no one else has to. I never thought I signed up for this kind of work and on balance it has been the best learning experience of my life. I learned that I had to sublimate my own needs because adolescents and young adults needed more egocentric care than I was used to giving. 

What I want to remember is that every time I have been the giver and reciprocity was not part of the equation I was the one that suffered the most. When my sister borrowed a tidy sum from me some 15 years ago and wound up being angry at me I realized that some people cannot take responsibility for their part of the relationship. And that’s fine because their time will come when they will have to face those decisions and hopefully act responsibly. 

In the end it matters not what anyone thinks about me because I know what my resume is.  And  as a step parent I have gone the distance and I don’t need anyone’s approval.  

When I'm Wrong I am Wrong

I stand corrected. My wife informed me that my stepson is indeed trying to find employment and that he has sent out over 100 applications to find a position. Part of my blindness is what I don’t see and I have forgotten the fact that he wants to get on with his life more than I want to see him do. And so I apologize for not really getting the story right and when I see him here I erroneously thought that he wasn’t trying. I can see that that is just not correct. I love my stepson maybe more than he knows and it’s unfortunate that I don’t communicate with him better. I will endeavor to restore the imbalance that I have created in disharmony. I still wish that he would take out the garbage sometimes.