The dream may be over but so is the drama. I am certain that I contributed to some of it but a lot had to do with the fact that I was just not equipped to handle another man’s offspring. My sister said that she could not conceive of being custodian of someone else’s children. It is not for the faint of heart to be sure and the balancing act is less dizzying if you don’t have your own children but that is a handicap as well because you have no living examples of your own to compare it to.
I will always cherish my attempt at being a father and there will be much that I will take to my grave knowing what I have learned. Children are 100 times more concerned about what is happening in their lives as they are in yours, but my stepchildren always kept me on my toes because they expected more out of me especially being married to their mother.
My wife did a splendid job raising three children virtually by herself and I like to think that we spent many more days in harmony than not in my attempt to assist her as she gave them a family life of their own.
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Unfortunately most women are not always completely honest with their spouses. Often they swear that their first concerns are for the husband and their mutual relationship. The truth is their children always come first. Some women allot second place to their husbands and others take it themselves Hubby ends up on the bottom of the barrel. Many men seem to acquiesce without a struggle. Is it Machismo? Is the situation exacerbated when the husband is the step father?
We as children were taught respect and consideration. What did we teach our children entitlement and selfishness?
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