A Hall and Oates song with that title is my reference for today’s entry. It might be a cliché but when we refrain from something being said to someone because we think it’s already understood, or it might be too painful to state verbally or it might be something that may or may not be true we refrain from saying anything because it might start an argument or it might hurt someone’s feelings. These are all reasons good reasons we tell ourselves to keep our mouths shut. But what about those times when it’s just imperative we do say something? Simple things like asking my stepson to take out the garbage because he’s dressed instead of hoping he’s reading my mind and will remember to take it out by himself. Then to a more delicate subjects like money, like does he have any? Or what might be going on in his personal life that he feels he can share. Or when your stepdaughter didn’t get that promotion or she broke up with her beau? We can arrive at these questions not by asking them directly but by asking simply if there is anything I can help you with? Or a deeper query if there was something I could help you with but felt funny in asking about what would it is?
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