What a difference a day makes. A song written by a Spanish composer and then translated into English lyrics in 1934 was made popular by Dinah Washington in 1959 if my information is correct. In any case, it is the day after and just like I thought the irate feelings have abated and this lesson alone is worth it’s weight in gold. I could now have a conversation about what made me mad with most of the anger filtered out. A wonderful idea in how to avoid arguments, wait but one day. I do feel remarkably better. I am so glad I held my tongue because my voice now will be heard albeit in much more muted tones. Thank you again my friend and thank you too Dinah Washington. May your soul rest in peace.
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The journey is long, but rich with experience, challenge and lessons...if you keep your eyes, ears and intuition on high alert.
We may never become immune to the things that make us crazy, but we learn, through experience, how to deal with them better.
Navigating these mind bending issues is like turning a ship in the ocean..it can take a long time to go a short distance. but we're getting there...
JB -
Dinah, Dinah!
There was nobody Finah than Miss Washington. :)
And, the difference is you. (And, me. And, everyone else.)
Another tune of hers that also touches the spirit and stirs the soul is "This Bitter Earth".
And, as that final verse of that song goes:
This bitter earth can be so cold
Today you're young, too soon, too soon you're old
But while the voice within me cries
I'm sure someone will answer my call
And this bitter earth may not be so bitter after all
And, yes, even in those dark moments, we all can find some solace in those words.
Whether that call be answered by God or just a friend, there is sweetness in just living. It might not always be starlight and moonglow. But, that silver lining is there beyond the obscuring clouds.
Like another song lyric goes, "One Day At A Time..."
Or, just a page from Python and "Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life"....
:)
- A Smokin Hot Blonde
jb-
You're concerned about how to avoid arguments?? Arguments ARE a form of communication!
While sometimes you do need to cool down, sometimes you need to speak up. If you don't tell someone that something annoys you, angers you or simply doesn't work for you, how do you expect them to understand your feelings and possibly work WITH you on the issue? Although, some are not willing to work on "issues" because the situation works for them....
Allow yourself your feelings, but try to understand what's the root cause of them. Many of us (products of dysfunctional families)too frequently don't say anything to avoid an argument (or as you say... "Upset someone else's apple cart".
A Younger (but somewhat dysfunctional) Woman
SHB
I need you as my editor as you have the research weaponry down pat. You are certainly right about not having immunity and I know that metaphor well about stopping a ship, in some cases it takes miles. However turning a ship around via a Williamson turn heads the ship along the same track 180 degrees and was used when ever a man went overboard.
I am not afraid of arguments but I also know when it will do absolutely no good. My wife pointed out tonight that my step son was putting the dishes away. I said to myself so. What does that mean? One time he puts the dishes away what shall I do genuflect? I am off track here. I only know that I am wishing away the summer just to be alone for two months. I did not sign up for this no matter what anyone said.
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